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Equanimity is a perfect, unshakable balance of mind. -Nyanaponika Thera

What is equanimity?

Equanimity means not reacting to your reactions, whatever they are. Equanimity creates a buffer around the feeling tones of experiences so that you do not react to them with craving. It is like the circuit breaker that blocks the normal sequence in the mind that moves from feeling tone to craving to cling to suffering. Equanimity is when you are engaged with the world but not troubled by it. Think of a mud-room, where you leave your wet shoes and coats before entering the house. Similarly, your mind is like a house with a mud-room. Equanimity is that mental mud-room to leave your initial reactions at, so that you can keep the mind clean and peaceful. Through this non-reactivity, you create space for compassion, loving-kindness, and joy at the happiness of others.

In everyday life, stay present in your experiences. Be aware of your thoughts and mindful of your feelings towards your experiences. Remain disenchant with them – pleasure or pain. Craving, not desire, is the root of suffering. We crave to grab onto pleasure and resist pain and anything that we don’t like. Observe your stream of thoughts, without letting any bit of it hook you. Situations are just situations. People are just being themselves. Don’t grasp enjoyable experiences or push against unpleasant ones, let everything flow, no reason to chase or resist. Let everything be.

Equanimity is an unusual brain state. Your brain does not naturally stay engaged with neutral stimuli, thus you must make an conscious effort to sustain this. Through your consistent practice, you can sensitize yourself to neutral aspects of experiences and your mind will become more comfortable staying neutral and thus less inclined to seek rewards or scans for threats. Ultimately, bringing stillness of the mind and tranquility.


Open Heart

Believe. Everything is the way it is meant to be. No matter how sad or scared you may be, there will be a rainbow waiting at the end. Don’t be afraid of the uncertainty. Keep moving forward. Have faith that you are taken care of. Stay in the present. Don’t let your past hinder this moment. Focus on this experience. Be here. Show up with an open heart. It is amazing how positive thoughts can alter not only your state of being, but also your experiences. Be yourself and surround yourself with what you want to have present in your life. Participate in your own life, be a co-creator. Keep the intention clear, but let life manifest. Be patient. Things may not happen the way you expect it to, but it will. And when it does, be prepared because it will be better than your wildest dreams. Choose how you want to live. Be grateful for what you already have.

Recently, I experienced a period of sadness combined with lot of doubts and fear when one of my relationships came to an end. It was painful when those layers of dark truth started to peel open like the layers of an onion. I questioned what was true and what was real. Every time I started to feel a little better, I would get hit with another ugly truth. My grounds started to shake along with my beliefs, I was losing my center. But, life keeps going, so we must remember to move forward. I’m happy that I no longer feel sad or hurt. I’m grateful for this experience because it made my heart stronger. Today, without any attachments to this past, I open my vulnerable heart to love once again because it is the only way to live. With love.